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CNC with Tina Horn

This play or fantasy involving force and control — is one of the most taboo topics and with good reason. The painful reality of abuse, assault, and oppression affect our lives every day. This topic itself is a seeming contradiction: how and why do we desire something we don’t want?



83 minutes



What you are going to learn

This workshop is for anyone who has ever had a kidnapping fantasy...

...who has ever gotten steamy at the sight of harlequin romance novel covers, or wants to learn more ways to use erotic force, control, and pain in the bedroom. It’s for tops, bottoms, sadists, masochists, dominants, submissives, vers switches, partnered, solo, and non-monogamists of all kinds.

We will take a VERY intersectional approach. We will be discussing what it means to fantasize and/or role play about overpowering and/or being overpowered by another person while living in white supremacist cis-heteronormative ableist cultures.

Throughout this course you will discover:

  • Scene ideas, offer negotiation, safe words, and aftercare guidance, and explore the idea of BDSM as healing.
  • We will explore fear, rough, and edge play as well as emphasizing how many playful and romantic scenes can incorporate CNC elements in surprising ways.
  • Discuss related topics: coercion, blackmail, inappropriateness, exploitation, overwhelm, stimulation overload, extreme catharsis, absolute presence in the moment.
Tina Horn hosts and produces the long-running kink podcast Why Are People Into That?!, which she's currently adapting into a book. She is also: the creator and writer of the sci-fi sex-rebel comic book series SfSx (Safe Sex); a leather queer pornographer; and a slut for hot springs. 
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